I had planned to ring in the new year with a post of my own in lieu of an article for the First Day Farm Female series. Any here it is approaching the end of January and I’m just now getting to it.
Someone recently told me something they intended to do and added, “now I have to do it, because I’ve told you I was going to.”
I find myself doing that too. Sometimes, that’s just what is takes. Another human knowing your intentions provides extra motivation to be sure you follow through. You may have a self-imposed deadline, but if you are the only one who knows about it, it’s easier to kick the can down the road. And of course in most cases, there’s probably nothing wrong with that. But if it’s something you really want to do (experience, accomplish, etc.) – then don’t push it off.
It can be really difficult to share hopes, dreams, goals, and even the very simplest of plans with others. And the action to carryout can also be difficult, whether you’ve shared or not. For one, that comes with a sense of vulnerability that most humans like to avoid. And two, our perception of reactions is likely far worse than reality. Anyone else fall into that trap? The one where you believe others are more critical than complimentary. More gluttonous than giving. More suspicious than supportive.
There’s the possibility of others rejecting or degrading the idea. There’s the possibility you find it’s not feasible or achievable. There’s the possibility that new obstacles may emerge. And there’s the added stress of meeting expectations.
But you know what I’ve found?
There’s the possibility of other praising and supporting the idea. There’s the possibility of building helpful connections. There’s the possibility that others may have tips for resources available. There’s the possibility of finding collaborative partners. There’s the possibility of getting valuable critique and encouraging feedback.
Instead of focusing on the potential drawbacks of sharing hopes and dreams, goals and plans, think about the positives.
Maybe we can break down those barriers if we each do our part to help others feel appreciated. Maybe it’s offering a deserved compliment to a friend. Maybe it’s a coffee for the co-worker who helped you in a pinch. Maybe it’s being present for a neighbor in a time of loss.
It doesn’t take a grand gesture or a lot of money to brighten someone’s day.
This year, that’s important to me because I’m focusing on self-improvement and encouraging others. For the past few years I’ve selected a word of the year rather than setting New Year’s resolutions.
My word of the year for 2020 is bloom, which (unrelated to flowers) can mean a flourishing and healthy condition, a time or period of great beauty. I love the many ways this word can be used to inspire me in the coming year.
“Bloom Where You Are Planted” – Inspiration to make the most of where I am.
“Live Life in Full Bloom” – Inspiration to shine brightly in all of life.
“Ignorance is like a delicate fruit; touch it, and the bloom is gone.” Oscar Wilde. – Inspiration to put forethought into my words and actions.
“The bloom may be brief but the memory of its beauty will last a lifetime.” Deb Zantamata. – Inspiration to live in the moment and make memories.
“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it… it just blooms.” Based upon Matthew 6:27-29. – Inspiration to focus on self-improvement and not comparison.
“The seeds of kindness you plant today will bloom in the hearts of all you touch.” – Inspiration to spread kindness and help others bloom.
One challenge to myself this year is to do a better job of planting seeds of kindness to help others bloom. I want to prove that people can be complimentary, giving, and supportive. Will you join me?
By the way, Dayspring has an awesome quiz you can take if you want assistance in finding a word to inspire you this year. I had a few words in mind, but my quiz result won out!